"Learning from Lu'Ami is always loads of fun and she is incredible at getting you relaxed and comfortable from the first lesson. I always lacked confidence as a singer but even after the first session I immediately improved, getting compliments from other musicians when I was rehearsing and hearing my voice get stronger, more tuneful and confident every week. I would hugely recommend singing lessons from Lu!" - Matthew (Student)
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How To Sing With Confidence (4 Steps)
When we are not confident this can affect not just our performance, but our whole vocal sound. Here are my tips to sing with confidence;
1. Stop The Negative Self-Talk
Before we train as singers, most of us think our ability to be much worse than it really is. Much like in life where it is common for our self-esteem to be lower than the objective reality. It is important to remember that our brain can not decipher a difference between sarcasm, thoughts or feelings and therefore our brain will form believes based on what we say, think and feel. Our believes in turn influence what decisions we make and how we act in situations.
If we believe we are bad singers, there is an element of us that will block any improvement. We can become very comfortable with negative thoughts and self-talk making it difficult for us to prevent. Once you start to notice, you will become more conscious of it and adjusting this habit will be easier.
Try to catch yourself out. Next time you do an exercise and you naturally say ‘I cant do that,’ ‘my voice can't go that high’, or ‘I am not Mariah Carey’, stop yourself and say ‘good effort, lets try again’. The only way you will improve this part of your voice which may seem impossible now, is through repeating it over and over until you nail it!
Remember the teacher that believed in you at school compared to one that made you feel you were always wrong. To your brain, there is no difference between their voices and yours, so do yourself a favour and speak to yourself with encouragement.
2. Understand How Singing Works
This one is inspired by feedback I got from my students about their own confidence. The first couple of lessons may be challenging as we are getting used to connecting all parts of the singing body together and using the body for a different function than usual. Our bodies are our instruments. If we imagine playing a guitar we can strum on the strings, but without fingering the chords the sound that comes from the body will not be tuneful, and the pressure in which we strum will make the sound powerful or subtle depending on how much control we have over this.
There are also steps in singing we must follow to create a good sound. First we start by taking deep breaths and engaging the diaphragm to access our power. Second, we open our mouths and create space inside our mouths to give the sound resonance. Meanwhile our instrument must stay relaxed, as any tension in the body will prevent singing with ease and will potentially throw your confidence.
There are many other factors to great singing and control but these are the first few simple steps. Once my students became comfortable with these they spoke about how they felt more confident singing around people and confidence in their vocal ability grew.
3. Get To Know Your Voice
When you practice, throw your inhibitions out the window. A lot of singing exercises are strange in order to work certain parts of your voice that may never have been worked on. Singing is very different to talking and therefor it is likely for unique sounds to appear when giving the voice a work out. The more relaxed we can be with this, the more fun we have in the process!
Avoiding our vocal issues is just like ignoring or avoiding problems in every day life, it only ever gets worse until you chose to deal with the problem. And when you do deal with the problem, you almost always learn something valuable that you can apply next time you hit another issue. By dealing with each issue as it comes up, we learn more about our singing voice, our strong abilities, and what we need to work on to create a fully controlled sound. If we ignore the weakness’ in our vocal, and only work on what already sounds good, the weakness’ could come back in an unexpected way, like on stage!
Feeling anxious about how you sound in a practice will only make it even harder to sing everywhere else. Practice feeling confident in your practices, by accepting whatever sound comes out and have fun with it!
4. Focus On What You Love About Your Voice
Many of you may have heard of a gratitude journal as a way of learning how to sustain a positive attitude. It has been proven that being thankful for all that we have in our lives already can make you feel happier within yourself, because it takes our attention away from what we lack.
I am suggesting we can apply this to our voices in order to gain confidence in ourselves and our singing abilities. Write down 5 things that you love about your voice. Really think about it, maybe you have great breath control, a lovely tone, or immense power! Switching your attention from what you can not do to what you can do will create wonders for your confidence when singing.
Happy Practicing, Lu x