The second track on the ‘Warriors’ E.P is called ‘Love’. I wrote it about a relationship but have since been singing it about all kinds of love. It could be a passion, a job, a way of life that we desire, but we are scared to take the leap. The empowerment message behind this one is feel the fear and do it anyway.
Fear comes in many different forms, sometimes it's hard to tell where its coming from. Is it our intuition telling us this is not our path, fight or flight telling us to be safe, our own voice from an experience we've had, or someone else’s voice from an experience they've had and rubbed off on us? And what do we do about it when the feeling comes up?
I have found it hard to separate intuition from fear in the past, and on a similar subject to my talk on ‘how to find belonging’, it comes down to times when we've ignored our intuition and that voice has been silenced.
What other voices have we taken in? A parent or a friend may have smothered us with their own fears at a time when we weren't tuned into our own. If we had been, we may not have come with these fears ourselves. It depends on how good we are at putting up healthy boundaries and therefor seeing the difference between our own thoughts and someone else projections.
I believe there are two ways of living life. We can live in constant fear of moving forward and never take any steps to because we are scared of an outcome we can not see or control, so we don't push for what we want. In this version of living, life unfortunately controls us, and we become stagnant and therefor unhappy. We need to be constantly growing to feel fulfilled.
“If you are not growing, you are dying” — Tony Robbins
In scenario two, we embrace fear, see it as a positive and exciting feeling and jump into whatever it is we want to do next with open arms. We think about the consequences, so we aren't completely ignorant, but we accept that we can not control the outcome. We hope for the best.
“Whatever we resist persists” — Carl Jung
This Carl Jung quote can be applied to many different situations. In general the energy that we put into life, we get back. If we feel and act hopeless and make no steps forward, we will lack in opportunities, growth and happiness. If we can feel excited about what makes us scared and move towards it, we will attract more of these opportune moments.
Even if when we jump it goes terribly, there is always a lesson in there to learn for next time. The biggest companies have many failure stories where they learned from their downfalls and persisted, achieving great successes. ‘How to fail’ With Elizabeth Day is a great podcast for hearing these sorts stories to inspire you.
The difference between a helpful and unhelpful fear: is there any danger involved?
. Write down your fear.
. Make a list of pros and cons.
. Review this list and ask yourself, is there any danger involved?
If the answer is ‘no’, tune in to that tingling sensation that’s telling you your life could change for the better, get excited and jump with the wind baby!!
You can listen to ‘Love’, and the whole Warriors EP below!
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